Find Your Joy

Happiness.  Joy.  Love.  How do you attain these things?  It's really simple.  Do what makes you happy.  Indulge in what brings you joy.  Love others, be IN love with others.  Do it up!  There is nothing wrong with that, when you love another all it means is you recognize a part of yourself in them that you love about yourself.  People get love and sex and control mixed up all too often and that's when feelings of jealousy come into play and it all goes downhill.  It's not about that at all and jealousy and control are nothing more than fear rearing its ugly head.  We are all one consciousness and every person we meet is a reflection of ourselves in one way or another, good or "bad."  Find the good in those people you love and find the good in yourself.  Find the "bad" in those people you "hate" and find it in yourself - then choose to continue being that way, or to change that part of yourself if you decide it no longer serves your greater good.  Approach every relationship in your life this way to truly know yourself and grow.  (I'd like to point out here that this is why, if I say I love you, I really mean it, no matter who you are or how long we have known one another.)  If there is something that brings you joy then make time for it in your life.  Don't come up with excuses for why you don't have time, why you are indispensable, how you must sacrifice.  That is just your ego talking.  The world will keep on spinning while you make time for yourself.  And it will do everyone a world of good if you do take that time, so in this way, you are actually doing good and not just wasting time as you might think.  Don't attach yourselves to others and make yourself dependent upon them for your happiness.  If you share a mutual joy then by all means, indulge in that joy together but do not make a contract of it.  Do what feels right, when it feels right, and allow them the freedom to do the same.  Learn to indulge in your joys on your own without needing anyone else and the company of another when they choose to join you will become the icing on your happiness cake.  Let go of all your expectations, let go of all your assumptions, just let go and enjoy the experience as it happens.  If it feels right to stay where you are, then do it.  If it feels right to move on, then do it.  If it feels right to disregard the "rules" of society...THEN DO IT!  Be kind and compassionate and HONEST in all that you do...but do not allow the emotions of others or fear to stop you from following your heart.  Just as you are responsible for doing all of these things for yourself, others are responsible for doing the same for themselves, and you are not responsible for how they feel about your decisions.  To love somebody truly means to love them whether they do what you want them to or not.  It is their life and their choice, not yours.  If their joy takes them in a different direction than you, and they force themselves to stay because of you...well, do you see where I'm going with this?  Then they are not being their authentic selves and they are living for you, and you are not living for yourself either because you are living to control them instead of taking control of yourself.  You are putting a condition of dependance upon both of you that is not healthy for either.  So what do you do to overcome those feelings of "neediness" when it comes to those you love?  Well...now we're back to where we started.  Find your joy and live it.  Whatever that joy is, in as many forms as it takes.  Fill yourself up with many sources of joy until you have no room for anything but happiness.  Then you are forever in a state of love, forever abundant, and forever creating the reality you desire.  Once you reach that state of mind and awareness, a whole new world opens up for you, and that is when the journey really begins.


Blessings, my friends.  <3

©  Lady Jennith